Spanking as Therapy
"Pain on YOUR terms"
Lily Morley, Lethbridge, Alberta
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Hello!
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My name is Lily and I love all things spanking! Giving and getting! There, I've said it! Now that's out of the way, I also love writing. My website is a place where I put down in words what's in my mind so as to allow folks who may want to book with me a chance to understand where I'm coming from, so to speak. These pages are wordy so apologies if reading is not your thing. To be clear, I was NOT spanked as a child and nor do I believe in spanking as a form of discipline for children. The spanking and other types of play I mention in this website is always between two (or more) consenting adults.
MY FIRST SPANKING
My first spanking experiencewas on a Tuesday night, exactly a week after watching a friend of mine getting one. I wanted to try it out. It included paddles, floggers and bare hands. I trusted that person not to injure me, they were not carrying out this physical act out of malice or with the intention of punishing me for something they believed I had done wrong. I had quite literally asked them to 'hurt me'. I was inviting physical pain into my life in that moment and I was going to experience it fully. I was able to breathe into the pain every time my body was struck. I had asked for the pain, I accepted the pain, I felt it come and then I felt it go away.
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The day after my house and all the furniture in it looked different. My vision was literally clearer. I had clarity, I was 'high' on life for a few days following that 12 minute consensual 'spanking'. This shift in me was so profound that four days later that I wanted to be able to give others this same feeling, so I dived deep into the world of BDSM and kink in general. Thirteen years later I have had the opportunity to explore spanking and other types of play with hundreds of people, mostly as a top but occasionally as a bottom. I've listened to their stories. There's SOOOOO much more to getting a spanking than most people would think.
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You see, the pain we suffer in our lives, the physical and the emotional pain, is NOT consensual. Growing up we didn't ask to be shouted at or spanked, no one asks to be bullied at school, no one asks to be shamed or laughed at or excluded. We suffer by the hands and words of others so when, as an adult in our right mind, we ASK to suffer, we gain control of the pain coming our way and our minds and nervous systems can process NOT in a flight, flight or freeze state. We are in control and in a state of surrender to the person who is giving us what we have asked for... a consensual pain... pain on our own terms. Some people know that experiencing pain during a spanking helps them, and therefore is healing to them.​
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SO... I GET IT. I know what it feels like to be 'overdue' a spanking'. I currently do not have anyone in my life who spanks me. I need someone like me in my life! It's like an itch that needs scratching and there really isn't much that can help that itch except a spanking.
This is a very important part of my life. It gives me great joy to be able to help people with this very specific need. My clients come from all walks of life. Their different backgrounds and life stories mean their exposure and/or experiences with spanking are all unique. They range in age from 21 to 70+.
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My clients come to me in a state of need, of curiosity, of vulnerability. I provide them with a safe place to have their spanking and discipline needs met. The act of spanking and the giving and receiving of discipline is like any kind of bodywork, is somewhat of an intimate act and it is important that both parties feel at ease in each other's company.
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For some clients the sessions are fun in nature, we chat and talk like any other 'appointment' or 'treatment' butt for others it is serious, a time for them to focus solely on the reason for their spanking or other kind of discipline. I'm comfortable in any setting.
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THERAPIST?
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In recent years I have studied the nervous system and know the basics of how embodied trauma can affect a person down the line, therefore I feel comfortable saying that I am a trauma informed practitioner, but I am not a certified therapist, hence I don't label myself as a spanking therapist. But if the person getting the spanking, the 'bottom', decides that getting a spanking is therapeutic for them... great, I'm happy I can help them out in this way.
Over the years I have developed many wonderful professional relationships, 'Service Provider & Client relationships, with many of my clients. My role in their lives becomes important to them and I'm usually the only person who is aware of their need to be spanked or disciplined. I am honoured to be held in such trust. I look forward to our time together and can only presume they do too... well, they keep coming back!
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Spankfully Yours,
Lily
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